Aug
31
Barbara Beccari asked:
As parents we are our children’s very earliest teacher – a very important role – so we need to model for our children the kinds of behaviours that we wish them to follow. Creating a relationship based on respect for each other, appreciating them as they are and encouraging them towards responsibility and independence are important goals for parents in nurturing their young child.
Here are 7 tips to being an inspiring first teacher for your child and to having a loving and close relationship with them:
1. Show your child respect by giving them lots of cuddles and time
2. Get down to their eye level and really listen to what they are saying. Listen with your lips shut as well as with your heart
3. Understand things more from their perspective and talk about their feelings
4. Appreciate the things they can do and praise them
5. Let them have a go first as they try new things instead of doing things for them
6. Allow them to do some little jobs like helping put toys away. This helps them learn to be responsible
7. Notice the things they can do by themselves as they get older and praise them. This will encourage your child to keep on striving to achieve new goals and eventually become independent
When you parent your little one keeping these 7 tips in mind, you will be building a wonderful close bond, while encouraging them to grow and develop to their full potential. And isn’t that after all what we as parents want most of all?
As parents we are our children’s very earliest teacher – a very important role – so we need to model for our children the kinds of behaviours that we wish them to follow. Creating a relationship based on respect for each other, appreciating them as they are and encouraging them towards responsibility and independence are important goals for parents in nurturing their young child.
Here are 7 tips to being an inspiring first teacher for your child and to having a loving and close relationship with them:
1. Show your child respect by giving them lots of cuddles and time
2. Get down to their eye level and really listen to what they are saying. Listen with your lips shut as well as with your heart
3. Understand things more from their perspective and talk about their feelings
4. Appreciate the things they can do and praise them
5. Let them have a go first as they try new things instead of doing things for them
6. Allow them to do some little jobs like helping put toys away. This helps them learn to be responsible
7. Notice the things they can do by themselves as they get older and praise them. This will encourage your child to keep on striving to achieve new goals and eventually become independent
When you parent your little one keeping these 7 tips in mind, you will be building a wonderful close bond, while encouraging them to grow and develop to their full potential. And isn’t that after all what we as parents want most of all?
Aug
30
How to Talk to your Kids Effectively
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Michael Lee asked:
If your idea of a conversation with your kids involves a shouting match which ends with a “You’re grounded” howl from you, then you have to learn how to talk to your kids without raising your blood pressure. Let’s face it, raising children is 4 parts “art” and 6 parts “pure hell”. But nothing can deny the fact that parenthood is the most fulfilling of all careers. Therefore, knowing how to talk to your kids effectively is something you should learn by heart.
1. Be as honest as you can be. There are times when your 4-year old might catch you off-guard with an impromptu question. This can either be something out of a trivia contest (like, why is the sky blue? or how deep is sand?) or a sensitive issue about death, *** or drugs.
If you can’t answer right away, then tell them so. Regardless of what you might think, it’s ok not to know everything. Just tell your kid that you have no idea at the moment but that you will look it up and share it with him/her later. Be sure to keep your promises too. Children do appreciate it if you are trustworthy enough to keep your word.
2. Begin as soon as possible. Communication is something that should come naturally between you and your child. So early on, be sure to initiate good conversation with your kids.
As early as 3 or 4 years old, kids can become really inquisitive. Nurture their curiosity. When they get exposed to television and other forms of media, you won’t be able to control the information that gets to them.
You still have the first opportunity to explain things, so be sure you use this chance wisely. Knowing how to talk to your kids while they are still young will give you a good foundation for effective communication.
3. Be patient. Most of the time, kids may annoy you with constant questioning. Talking or explaining would be easier if you make the conversation as straightforward as possible. Don’t confuse them with difficult words. Use terms that are familiar and in line with their level of understanding.
Those are 3 simple tips on knowing how to talk to your kids. I hope it works both ways…talk to them while listening. And listen to them when they talk. Communication is a dual effort; as a parent though, its up to you to initiate it. Happy parenting!
If your idea of a conversation with your kids involves a shouting match which ends with a “You’re grounded” howl from you, then you have to learn how to talk to your kids without raising your blood pressure. Let’s face it, raising children is 4 parts “art” and 6 parts “pure hell”. But nothing can deny the fact that parenthood is the most fulfilling of all careers. Therefore, knowing how to talk to your kids effectively is something you should learn by heart.
1. Be as honest as you can be. There are times when your 4-year old might catch you off-guard with an impromptu question. This can either be something out of a trivia contest (like, why is the sky blue? or how deep is sand?) or a sensitive issue about death, *** or drugs.
If you can’t answer right away, then tell them so. Regardless of what you might think, it’s ok not to know everything. Just tell your kid that you have no idea at the moment but that you will look it up and share it with him/her later. Be sure to keep your promises too. Children do appreciate it if you are trustworthy enough to keep your word.
2. Begin as soon as possible. Communication is something that should come naturally between you and your child. So early on, be sure to initiate good conversation with your kids.
As early as 3 or 4 years old, kids can become really inquisitive. Nurture their curiosity. When they get exposed to television and other forms of media, you won’t be able to control the information that gets to them.
You still have the first opportunity to explain things, so be sure you use this chance wisely. Knowing how to talk to your kids while they are still young will give you a good foundation for effective communication.
3. Be patient. Most of the time, kids may annoy you with constant questioning. Talking or explaining would be easier if you make the conversation as straightforward as possible. Don’t confuse them with difficult words. Use terms that are familiar and in line with their level of understanding.
Those are 3 simple tips on knowing how to talk to your kids. I hope it works both ways…talk to them while listening. And listen to them when they talk. Communication is a dual effort; as a parent though, its up to you to initiate it. Happy parenting!
Aug
29
Happiness
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Roopa Sushil asked:
With this article, I am imparting the basic knowledge about being Happy always! Sounds strange? Check this out!!
Who wants to be happy? I am sure all of us would raise our hands very sportingly! Yes, genuinely all of us need Happiness in our lives, in our surroundings etc. But, have we ever analyzed the vital facts to achieve happiness? Let us find out where we go wrong in getting Happiness…
To kick off the topic, let us look into a few things which attributes to Happiness. Most importantly, why do we expect Happiness from others? We expect Happiness from our parents, brothers, sisters, spouse, children, friends and relatives. The answer to this question is, because we are emotionally attached to all of those from whom we are expecting Happiness. It is so simple to answer this question but have you ever felt that this is the prime reason for not being Happy? Is Happiness just meant to be getting from others only? Have you ever thought what have you done to keep yourself Happy? I am putting up a few things to keep oneself Happy consistently.
Firstly, to be Happy externally, your inner soul should be Happy. This is a mirror-image of what we feel at heart! Of course, sometimes we convert our frowns to little smiles — but that is done artificially. You are not at all happy within yourself, but pretending to be happy outside? Do we call this as Happiness? I am sure many of us agree and say a big ‘No’ to this. Yes, this is not called Happiness. So, keep yourself in such a condition or create such an ambiance where you need not run behind happiness. Mould your mind in such a way that your mind is always blissful and will never give out negative energies. By doing so, happiness makes its way to you!
We all try to make most of our special and important moments a happier one. But, I suggest you even try to make the non-important moments, a happier one. You will absolutely not feel the importance of making those moments happier at that point of time, but in a long run you will definitely understand the values of those moments. This helps in keeping you happy consistently. Means, you need not feel happier only at special occasions, you do have a right and you ought to be happy everyday and for eternity!
Stop expecting happiness from others. It sounds very outlandish, but yes only when you stop expecting happiness from others, you get happiness from others. Do not think that it is mandatory for others to give you happiness. Instead rethink and learn what you can do to keep yourself happy always. Pamper yourself, and do what your heart feels like. Do not try to do anything just for the sake of it. Whatever you do, do it heartily and it certainly makes you feel very nice about what you have done. Isn’t it a great feeling then?
Please understand, Happiness need not be materialistic — it is inbound and found in oneself only. Do not loiter around here and there to find happiness — it is within YOU and only you can give it to others!
Self Happiness is keeping you completely pleased. It means you do not need to others to make you happy. You are capable enough to have that joy in your life by just being yourself most of the times. It could be doing anything that you want! It could be reading what you want, listening to music, dressing up, dancing for yourself, going out for a dinner with someone, check on a picnic with friends or family….the list goes on…it could be anything but definitely what you ‘like’ or ‘want’ the most!
Spend time with yourself, rather talk to yourself. Discuss with yourself about your positive and negative aspects. Feel happy about your positives but at the same time, make an action-plan to overcome your negatives. When you do not have any negative traits in you, your mind is automatically in cheerful condition.
Laugh at yourself and relate every moment of life, firstly with yourself. This is a great tool in keeping contact with oneself and you always feel you are with someone very close to your heart. Can anybody be a better friend than you to yourself? This is a great treat which you give to yourself by gifting a nice friend to you.
Think positive or be optimistic to keep yourself in high spirits. I concur; most of you would say this is a very philosophical thought! But yes, this philosophical thought will definitely stack happiness on you. Let us see how it works — a simple e.g. question yourself what will you achieve by thinking negative or being pessimistic? Nothing, right? Negative Aspect - You will be more worried about the future consequences of such incidents. Positive Aspect - You even spoil the little happiness at that moment, though it is temporary. Therefore, forget thinking about the consequences negatively, instead enjoy every moment of life king-size!
Prominently, try and understand all those factors of goodness that makes your heart feel delighted. Once you finish this task, you will certainly know what needs to be done in order to pamper your heart, rather yourselves. So, go ahead and do all those nice and good things and feel happy. I don’t think it is a tough task; considerably it is indeed a very easiest one!
Spread happiness around you and keep everyone at ease. As said earlier not to expect happiness from others, but you should spread love and joy around you. The finest thing of life is to “make others happyâ€. You need to always try to find a chance where you can shower moments of joy on others. This boosts up the positive energy level in you. And when you have positive energy in you, undeniably you are obviously incredibly happy! So, seek for an opportunity to unfold happiness to your loved ones, friends, relatives, neighbours and do not forget those little pets in your house. It will have an immense effect on anyone for that matter!
By and large, happiness cannot be bestowed by each and everyone. But if you inculcate this in your nature, you can definitely confer happiness to so many around you in your life. With respect to this, firstly it is very essential to be happy with oneself before giving it to others. Otherwise this splendid task of endowing happiness becomes a mere show-off business.
I think I have intended everything that matters to keeping oneself Happy!
Stay Happy! Keep yourselves exultant at all times!
Roopa Sushil
With this article, I am imparting the basic knowledge about being Happy always! Sounds strange? Check this out!!
Who wants to be happy? I am sure all of us would raise our hands very sportingly! Yes, genuinely all of us need Happiness in our lives, in our surroundings etc. But, have we ever analyzed the vital facts to achieve happiness? Let us find out where we go wrong in getting Happiness…
To kick off the topic, let us look into a few things which attributes to Happiness. Most importantly, why do we expect Happiness from others? We expect Happiness from our parents, brothers, sisters, spouse, children, friends and relatives. The answer to this question is, because we are emotionally attached to all of those from whom we are expecting Happiness. It is so simple to answer this question but have you ever felt that this is the prime reason for not being Happy? Is Happiness just meant to be getting from others only? Have you ever thought what have you done to keep yourself Happy? I am putting up a few things to keep oneself Happy consistently.
Firstly, to be Happy externally, your inner soul should be Happy. This is a mirror-image of what we feel at heart! Of course, sometimes we convert our frowns to little smiles — but that is done artificially. You are not at all happy within yourself, but pretending to be happy outside? Do we call this as Happiness? I am sure many of us agree and say a big ‘No’ to this. Yes, this is not called Happiness. So, keep yourself in such a condition or create such an ambiance where you need not run behind happiness. Mould your mind in such a way that your mind is always blissful and will never give out negative energies. By doing so, happiness makes its way to you!
We all try to make most of our special and important moments a happier one. But, I suggest you even try to make the non-important moments, a happier one. You will absolutely not feel the importance of making those moments happier at that point of time, but in a long run you will definitely understand the values of those moments. This helps in keeping you happy consistently. Means, you need not feel happier only at special occasions, you do have a right and you ought to be happy everyday and for eternity!
Stop expecting happiness from others. It sounds very outlandish, but yes only when you stop expecting happiness from others, you get happiness from others. Do not think that it is mandatory for others to give you happiness. Instead rethink and learn what you can do to keep yourself happy always. Pamper yourself, and do what your heart feels like. Do not try to do anything just for the sake of it. Whatever you do, do it heartily and it certainly makes you feel very nice about what you have done. Isn’t it a great feeling then?
Please understand, Happiness need not be materialistic — it is inbound and found in oneself only. Do not loiter around here and there to find happiness — it is within YOU and only you can give it to others!
Self Happiness is keeping you completely pleased. It means you do not need to others to make you happy. You are capable enough to have that joy in your life by just being yourself most of the times. It could be doing anything that you want! It could be reading what you want, listening to music, dressing up, dancing for yourself, going out for a dinner with someone, check on a picnic with friends or family….the list goes on…it could be anything but definitely what you ‘like’ or ‘want’ the most!
Spend time with yourself, rather talk to yourself. Discuss with yourself about your positive and negative aspects. Feel happy about your positives but at the same time, make an action-plan to overcome your negatives. When you do not have any negative traits in you, your mind is automatically in cheerful condition.
Laugh at yourself and relate every moment of life, firstly with yourself. This is a great tool in keeping contact with oneself and you always feel you are with someone very close to your heart. Can anybody be a better friend than you to yourself? This is a great treat which you give to yourself by gifting a nice friend to you.
Think positive or be optimistic to keep yourself in high spirits. I concur; most of you would say this is a very philosophical thought! But yes, this philosophical thought will definitely stack happiness on you. Let us see how it works — a simple e.g. question yourself what will you achieve by thinking negative or being pessimistic? Nothing, right? Negative Aspect - You will be more worried about the future consequences of such incidents. Positive Aspect - You even spoil the little happiness at that moment, though it is temporary. Therefore, forget thinking about the consequences negatively, instead enjoy every moment of life king-size!
Prominently, try and understand all those factors of goodness that makes your heart feel delighted. Once you finish this task, you will certainly know what needs to be done in order to pamper your heart, rather yourselves. So, go ahead and do all those nice and good things and feel happy. I don’t think it is a tough task; considerably it is indeed a very easiest one!
Spread happiness around you and keep everyone at ease. As said earlier not to expect happiness from others, but you should spread love and joy around you. The finest thing of life is to “make others happyâ€. You need to always try to find a chance where you can shower moments of joy on others. This boosts up the positive energy level in you. And when you have positive energy in you, undeniably you are obviously incredibly happy! So, seek for an opportunity to unfold happiness to your loved ones, friends, relatives, neighbours and do not forget those little pets in your house. It will have an immense effect on anyone for that matter!
By and large, happiness cannot be bestowed by each and everyone. But if you inculcate this in your nature, you can definitely confer happiness to so many around you in your life. With respect to this, firstly it is very essential to be happy with oneself before giving it to others. Otherwise this splendid task of endowing happiness becomes a mere show-off business.
I think I have intended everything that matters to keeping oneself Happy!
Stay Happy! Keep yourselves exultant at all times!
Roopa Sushil
Aug
28
My friend just recently had a baby, and needs some parenting tips?
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teenfashion25 asked:
my friend just had a baby and could use some tips, she’s only 15. and is trying to raise the baby her self, i’m trying to help out as best as i can.
my friend just had a baby and could use some tips, she’s only 15. and is trying to raise the baby her self, i’m trying to help out as best as i can.
Aug
28
9 Adhd Parenting Tips
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Alvin Toh asked:
Parenting ADHD children can be stressful, frustrating and overwhelming. ADHD children have a shorter attention span than other kids and they often anger easily when they dont get their way.
Parenting through these difficulties will help raise a happy, healthy child. Here are 9 ADHD parenting tips to help you cope with and support your ADHD child.
1. Be consistent and set down specific rules. Changing the rules mid-stream can be confusing to the ADHD child. Be sure that both parents are on-board with the same rules.
2. Establish routines. All children thrive when they follow a routine but this is especially true of ADHD children. Be strict about the times that things take place but be aware of the fact that your child may have a short attention span. Limit the time children can watch television, play video games or listen to music. Sticking to these rules allows time for the children to think on their own and to use their creativity.
3. Assign weekly or daily chores. Use a chart to keep track of progress. Children love to get a gold star when they complete a task. For ADHD children, this can be a great ego boost. Be sure to explain exactly how to complete the task and even demonstrate it to them yourself.
4. Choose your battles wisely. Decide early on what things are most important and make sure that these things are the ones that get done. If the child wavers on an unimportant item let it go. What strikes the child one way one day may change the next. Be sure that your core values and beliefs are being honored.
5. Teach time management skills. ADHD children can benefit tremendously from learning the art of prioritization and time management. Often the child does not yet understand how to make these types of decisions. For older children utilize a planner or electronic organizers.
6. Break tasks down. Children with ADHD may not be able to stay focused on one task, especially if it is a large one. Break down each task into smaller, more manageable pieces. This will reduce the frustration level of you and your child.
7. Have patience. Parents already know that it takes lots of patience to raise their children with ADHD. To keep your own patience level up try giving tasks when there is plenty of time to complete them and enough time for you to follow up. Try to allow some room for error and always accentuate the positive things your child does.
8. Communicate with your child. One of the best ways to help ADHD children is to spend time with them. Set aside some time each day to talk to your child and get to know him. Help him to learn to communicate well with others and to know that he can come to you with any problems.
9. Be a good role model to your child. This is one of the biggest factors that will determine the outcome of your child as an adult. Although it may not seem like it, your child watches you and strives to be like you.
Parenting ADHD children can be stressful, frustrating and overwhelming. ADHD children have a shorter attention span than other kids and they often anger easily when they dont get their way.
Parenting through these difficulties will help raise a happy, healthy child. Here are 9 ADHD parenting tips to help you cope with and support your ADHD child.
1. Be consistent and set down specific rules. Changing the rules mid-stream can be confusing to the ADHD child. Be sure that both parents are on-board with the same rules.
2. Establish routines. All children thrive when they follow a routine but this is especially true of ADHD children. Be strict about the times that things take place but be aware of the fact that your child may have a short attention span. Limit the time children can watch television, play video games or listen to music. Sticking to these rules allows time for the children to think on their own and to use their creativity.
3. Assign weekly or daily chores. Use a chart to keep track of progress. Children love to get a gold star when they complete a task. For ADHD children, this can be a great ego boost. Be sure to explain exactly how to complete the task and even demonstrate it to them yourself.
4. Choose your battles wisely. Decide early on what things are most important and make sure that these things are the ones that get done. If the child wavers on an unimportant item let it go. What strikes the child one way one day may change the next. Be sure that your core values and beliefs are being honored.
5. Teach time management skills. ADHD children can benefit tremendously from learning the art of prioritization and time management. Often the child does not yet understand how to make these types of decisions. For older children utilize a planner or electronic organizers.
6. Break tasks down. Children with ADHD may not be able to stay focused on one task, especially if it is a large one. Break down each task into smaller, more manageable pieces. This will reduce the frustration level of you and your child.
7. Have patience. Parents already know that it takes lots of patience to raise their children with ADHD. To keep your own patience level up try giving tasks when there is plenty of time to complete them and enough time for you to follow up. Try to allow some room for error and always accentuate the positive things your child does.
8. Communicate with your child. One of the best ways to help ADHD children is to spend time with them. Set aside some time each day to talk to your child and get to know him. Help him to learn to communicate well with others and to know that he can come to you with any problems.
9. Be a good role model to your child. This is one of the biggest factors that will determine the outcome of your child as an adult. Although it may not seem like it, your child watches you and strives to be like you.
Aug
24
My head is saying Fool, forget him! My heart is saying Don’t let go?
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Deni asked:
This one is a long one, but I tried summing it up the best I could.
This one is a long one, but I tried summing it up the best I could.
I’ve been dating this guy for a 1 ½ year now. There was moment of bliss that turned out to be a strong bond and love for each other. I never felt so connected to someone, except for when I was with my first love when I was 18, I am now 31.
We never fought. I am the social butterfly and he’s the laid back type. We seem to fit like hand and glove.
A short time had passed after we first started dating. Then the bomb hit. I found out, he is a cocaine addict. I was shocked and so deeply hurt and disappointed.
How could something so real, so right, that I have waited for, for so long end up so wrong?
I cried like a baby. Every time I find someone, something has to be so horribly wrong with them! I feel cursed!
My past speaks for itself. I have dated a long line of losers and users. This one didn’t carry those characteristics. He wasn’t mean, he wasn’t trying hard to impress. He was just himself, and a sweetheart at that.
This is what made it so difficult for me to detach at that time. I saw potential in him. I saw so much good, and so I invested myself in him to hopefully make a difference. The other girls he dated were not of the best kind and I was the most stable “normal” woman he ever dated. His parents even agreed and hoped things would get better.
They did….for a short time. Then, just when things started looking up, just when he started doing better at work, got a car, caught up on bills and began repairing his relationships he’d ***** up again!
It has been like a roller coaster and I feel so much empathy for his mother and father, for what he has been putting them through for years.
Just recently he checked himself into a rehab for a week. He then followed up with out patient care and meetings. He “graduated” from that, and has gotten a new job and new car.
Mind you it had been some time since he had a car last, and the last time he did, he totaled it on purpose and went on a cocaine binge.
The first day with the car, he disappears for over an hour, when he tells his father he is going to drop off a prescription. He comes back and of course, his parents aren’t happy.
There’s virtually no trust left, and I don’t blame them, because I have so little myself.
He took off again then came back a little later. I wanted him to come over last night, because I was going to be all alone in my apartment. I don’t like being alone. So, he was supposed to be on his way, when he never showed up. He called me at around 1:30am stating that he just needed to be alone and was just driving around. Mind you, his father had just given him $15, so you know what we all were thinking.
I was just so hurt and ticked! I couldn’t believe he was doing this. Just a week before we came back from vacation and he couldn’t wait to go home, or so I thought, but in reality he went out and used again!
He just seems to expect a lot, and wants everyone to turn the page. It isn’t that easy. I love this guy, but I can’t trust him and it frustrates me. I also have an 11 year old son. I know what I need to do, but my heart doesn’t know how to do it. I don’t want to be stuck in this crazy whirlwind anymore; at the same time my heart is broken. What should I do?
Aug
21
Parenting tips on teenage boys?
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Obama is not my president asked:
My 15 year old nephew is staying with us for a while, undecided on how long right now. I have 4 girls aged 13, 4, 3, 9 months. Any tips on teen boys. Or anything about them that could be useful, they are different from girls.
My 15 year old nephew is staying with us for a while, undecided on how long right now. I have 4 girls aged 13, 4, 3, 9 months. Any tips on teen boys. Or anything about them that could be useful, they are different from girls.
Aug
14
bethm0973 asked:
My husband is military and deployed quite a bit, we try very hard to utilize the internet and mobile communications as means for keeping him connected. What are some of your ideas, tips, or suggestions that we may be able to do as parents in keeping him included with the family from afar?
My husband is military and deployed quite a bit, we try very hard to utilize the internet and mobile communications as means for keeping him connected. What are some of your ideas, tips, or suggestions that we may be able to do as parents in keeping him included with the family from afar?
Aug
13
Understanding the Heart of God
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Doug Greenfield asked:
Understanding the Heart of God
Each day as I live and watch the world around me, I become more and more grieved with seeing so many people struggling with the issues of life. They want good things for themselves and their families, they desire to be healthy, prosperous and productive and they want their lives to be significant. Yet, in all of this struggle, most people still feel insignificant, most never know prosperity and many experience only a life of sorrow and hard work.
Is this the lot of mankind? Is this the norm or is there some great secret that could change this entire life of struggle and hardship? Many people strive for wealth, hoping it will bring relief and meaning to their lives. Some turn to pleasure, resolved to enjoy life as much as they can before they die. Some choose an induced utopia of drugs or alcohol to simply numb the pain and disappointment of their failures. But Jesus Himself encourages us by saying: “In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world” (John 16:33). Then, God reaffirms this truth in the book of 1st. John 5:5 by saying: “Who is he who overcomes the world, but he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?”
Our loving Creator calls to us out of His book, the Bible. In Proverbs chapter 4 vs 20 He pleads with us, saying,, “My children, if you receive My words and treasure My commands within you, so that you incline your ear to wisdom and apply your heart to understanding; Yes if you cry out for discernment and lift your voice for understanding, if you seek her as silver and search for her as for hidden treasures; then you will understand the fear (reverance) of the Lord, and find the knowledge of God. For the Lord gives knowledge and understanding; He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk uprightly, He guards the path of justice, and preserves the way of His saints. Then you will understand righteousness and justice and every good path.”
Talk about a letter of encouragement from the heart of a Parent who longs to see His children blessed in every way! His promise, “My children, do not forget my law but let your heart keep My commands; for length of days and long life and peace they will add to you–and so you will find favor with God and man!” (Proverbs 3:1-4)
I have diligently studied the word of God and have experienced His goodness for well over thirty years now. And it is true that I have not ever seen “His” children begging bread or the righteous forsaken. God has blessed me, prospered me and disciplined me in love. His interest in me and His tenderness toward me is completely beyond my understanding.
So, I choose to make myself available to my loving Creator and to pass on those nuggets of wisdom that He has shown me. The Bible is, to me, a “secret cache” of wisdom and knowledge that we all desperately need to live a happy, productive and meaningful life here on this earth.
My favorite Psalm, Psalm 37 is, I believe the crowning cry of Father God’s heart toward His children. He closes the chapter with the words, “The salvation of the righteous is from the Lord; He is their strength in the time of trouble. And the Lord shall help them and deliver them; He shall deliver them from the wicked and save them, because they trust in Him.” I hope that you have found these words as encouraging to you this day as they are to me. Searching through the Bible is the key to finding the wisdom we need to succeed in our lives, but one key remains, the key to unlock God’s unmerited favor (undeserved grace) to us.
Invite the Lord Jesus, the only Son of God, to live in you and direct your life, ask forgiveness for and repent of those things you do that displeases Him. This will restore the love of God the Father, because when we “confess our sins, he (Jesus) is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1John 1:9)
God’s promise for us at this point is found in Romans 8:31-32, “If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not even spare His own Son but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not, with Him, also freely give us all things?”
Now, here is a promise, here is hope, here is something to live for and set one’s compass by! He says, “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, ‘these’ are the children of God.” (Romans 8:14)
Understanding the Heart of God
Each day as I live and watch the world around me, I become more and more grieved with seeing so many people struggling with the issues of life. They want good things for themselves and their families, they desire to be healthy, prosperous and productive and they want their lives to be significant. Yet, in all of this struggle, most people still feel insignificant, most never know prosperity and many experience only a life of sorrow and hard work.
Is this the lot of mankind? Is this the norm or is there some great secret that could change this entire life of struggle and hardship? Many people strive for wealth, hoping it will bring relief and meaning to their lives. Some turn to pleasure, resolved to enjoy life as much as they can before they die. Some choose an induced utopia of drugs or alcohol to simply numb the pain and disappointment of their failures. But Jesus Himself encourages us by saying: “In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world” (John 16:33). Then, God reaffirms this truth in the book of 1st. John 5:5 by saying: “Who is he who overcomes the world, but he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?”
Our loving Creator calls to us out of His book, the Bible. In Proverbs chapter 4 vs 20 He pleads with us, saying,, “My children, if you receive My words and treasure My commands within you, so that you incline your ear to wisdom and apply your heart to understanding; Yes if you cry out for discernment and lift your voice for understanding, if you seek her as silver and search for her as for hidden treasures; then you will understand the fear (reverance) of the Lord, and find the knowledge of God. For the Lord gives knowledge and understanding; He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk uprightly, He guards the path of justice, and preserves the way of His saints. Then you will understand righteousness and justice and every good path.”
Talk about a letter of encouragement from the heart of a Parent who longs to see His children blessed in every way! His promise, “My children, do not forget my law but let your heart keep My commands; for length of days and long life and peace they will add to you–and so you will find favor with God and man!” (Proverbs 3:1-4)
I have diligently studied the word of God and have experienced His goodness for well over thirty years now. And it is true that I have not ever seen “His” children begging bread or the righteous forsaken. God has blessed me, prospered me and disciplined me in love. His interest in me and His tenderness toward me is completely beyond my understanding.
So, I choose to make myself available to my loving Creator and to pass on those nuggets of wisdom that He has shown me. The Bible is, to me, a “secret cache” of wisdom and knowledge that we all desperately need to live a happy, productive and meaningful life here on this earth.
My favorite Psalm, Psalm 37 is, I believe the crowning cry of Father God’s heart toward His children. He closes the chapter with the words, “The salvation of the righteous is from the Lord; He is their strength in the time of trouble. And the Lord shall help them and deliver them; He shall deliver them from the wicked and save them, because they trust in Him.” I hope that you have found these words as encouraging to you this day as they are to me. Searching through the Bible is the key to finding the wisdom we need to succeed in our lives, but one key remains, the key to unlock God’s unmerited favor (undeserved grace) to us.
Invite the Lord Jesus, the only Son of God, to live in you and direct your life, ask forgiveness for and repent of those things you do that displeases Him. This will restore the love of God the Father, because when we “confess our sins, he (Jesus) is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1John 1:9)
God’s promise for us at this point is found in Romans 8:31-32, “If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not even spare His own Son but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not, with Him, also freely give us all things?”
Now, here is a promise, here is hope, here is something to live for and set one’s compass by! He says, “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, ‘these’ are the children of God.” (Romans 8:14)
Aug
12
How do I get my wife, told me she wants a divorce, to want me back in her heart? I’m locked out of the heart
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mp_iraq_2003 asked:
She says she’s not happy. She says she’s not sure if I am where she wants to be in her future. We’ve been married 11 years, together 14. 2 children (10 5). I love her with all my heart and soul, but right now she has blocked me out. I am willing to do anything, and have ID’d my faults around the house and in parenting and have made the commitment to make those changes, not just for her, but for me, for my girls, and for us. I believe that if we can get through this we will have a stronger happier relationship.
She says she’s not happy. She says she’s not sure if I am where she wants to be in her future. We’ve been married 11 years, together 14. 2 children (10 5). I love her with all my heart and soul, but right now she has blocked me out. I am willing to do anything, and have ID’d my faults around the house and in parenting and have made the commitment to make those changes, not just for her, but for me, for my girls, and for us. I believe that if we can get through this we will have a stronger happier relationship.