Mar
28
Tanis Nicole Wright asked:
Is there a lot of stress and strain in your life because your children just don’t listen?
Do you spend the majority of your waking moments chasing after your children because they are not listening to you, and you feel like you have to micro-manage?
Do you have no energy because all your energy is spent being frustrated and blocked by your children’s apparent inability to follow orders?
Well, the good news is you may be able to get back your time and energy and a balanced family life simply by understanding what the communication block is between you and your children.
Of course, every child is unique. Some children need their freedom more than others. Some children enjoy structure, and some do not. But what they all do have is one, two, three or four communication modalities or communication modes in common.
What is a communication modality or mode?
As Dr. Robby, Director of the LMC Relationship Centre, Developer of the Better Parents, Better Kids Program, and co-author of our e-book, Better Parents, Better Kids, explains:
“Communication is the result you get. Different people are on different channels. We learn, we express love and communicate through different modes or combinations of modes. It is important to know who you are playing with and what channel they are playing on, or else your communication will not be very effective. We basically all want to get what we want. If you cannot get your message through of what your needs, wants, dreams, goals and visions are, you will be very frustrated and stressed. So an understanding of communication modes is a basic skill for relationship success, whether that is a relationship with a partner, your children, friends, family or coworkers.”
The following is a very basic definition of the communication modes. You can be primarily one mode or a mixture of up to all four.
Visual people communicate by seeing and doing. They like activities and they like gifts. They notice people, places and things with just the slightest glance. They feel and share love by doing things with or for other people. They take things at face value and do not look deeper into things. They learn by seeing and doing.
Auditory people communicate through talking. They have the natural gift of the gab, are designed to be able to talk for long periods of time. They enjoy talking and listening to other people talk. They feel loved when they are talked to, and like to hear the words “I love you.” They learn by hearing.
Digital people communicate through connection and understanding. They find the deeper meaning in everything they think, see and do. Understanding is very important to them. They feel loved when they share connections with others and are understood. They learn by understanding.
Kinesthetic people communicate through their bodies. They move, feel and express through their bodies. Kinesthetics love to touch, feel, do physical activities and hug. They feel loved when they are touched. They learn through touch and through experience.
So children are not any different. If you are giving children orders or directions and they are not picking up your orders because they are in your own communication mode and not their own communication mode, they will genuinely not pick up or learn what you are trying to tell them or teach them. They are not being stubborn or defiant; they genuinely aren’t receiving it. It’s like you are talking on an AM radio station and your children are receiving on an FM radio station.
For example, my youngest son is a Visual child, and I used to have to repeatedly tell him to pick up his clothes and clean his room, but to him, my auditory orders were basically like the teacher’s on the Charlie Brown cartoons, just a series of muffled noises. But after learning about communication modes, I realized that if I really wanted to get across to him what I wanted, I had to show him what I wanted him to do, or do it with him, since a Visual child, just like Visual adults, likes doing things with you, as does a Kinesthetic child. The result is that now I never have to repeat myself with my son; he picks up and understands my visual cues.
For an Auditory child, if you are a Visual parent and you are showing your child how to clean and tidy up, it won’t have an impact on them unless you tell them what you want and/or narrate as you are doing it. This works for a Digital child as well, if you explain step by step what you are doing so they understand the whole process.
For a Kinesthetic child, let them do a run-through themselves, or let them hold on to or touch what it is that you are teaching or getting them to do. Kinesthetic children learn and remember through touch. Even though a Visual child likes doing, a Visual child can learn by just seeing and watching, whereas a Kinesthetic child has to go through the motions to truly learn.
There is a part of you (especially if you are Visual) saying, “Yeah, I’ll believe it when I see it.” There is also a part of you that is connecting the dots and saying, “Yeah, that makes sense, and that explains why my child does what they do that way.”
So go ahead and come up with creative ways to communicate with your children in their communication modes, and see, hear, understand and/or feel what happens. You may just get that time, energy and peace of mind that you have always wanted, as well as a balanced and happy family, too.
Is there a lot of stress and strain in your life because your children just don’t listen?
Do you spend the majority of your waking moments chasing after your children because they are not listening to you, and you feel like you have to micro-manage?
Do you have no energy because all your energy is spent being frustrated and blocked by your children’s apparent inability to follow orders?
Well, the good news is you may be able to get back your time and energy and a balanced family life simply by understanding what the communication block is between you and your children.
Of course, every child is unique. Some children need their freedom more than others. Some children enjoy structure, and some do not. But what they all do have is one, two, three or four communication modalities or communication modes in common.
What is a communication modality or mode?
As Dr. Robby, Director of the LMC Relationship Centre, Developer of the Better Parents, Better Kids Program, and co-author of our e-book, Better Parents, Better Kids, explains:
“Communication is the result you get. Different people are on different channels. We learn, we express love and communicate through different modes or combinations of modes. It is important to know who you are playing with and what channel they are playing on, or else your communication will not be very effective. We basically all want to get what we want. If you cannot get your message through of what your needs, wants, dreams, goals and visions are, you will be very frustrated and stressed. So an understanding of communication modes is a basic skill for relationship success, whether that is a relationship with a partner, your children, friends, family or coworkers.”
The following is a very basic definition of the communication modes. You can be primarily one mode or a mixture of up to all four.
Visual people communicate by seeing and doing. They like activities and they like gifts. They notice people, places and things with just the slightest glance. They feel and share love by doing things with or for other people. They take things at face value and do not look deeper into things. They learn by seeing and doing.
Auditory people communicate through talking. They have the natural gift of the gab, are designed to be able to talk for long periods of time. They enjoy talking and listening to other people talk. They feel loved when they are talked to, and like to hear the words “I love you.” They learn by hearing.
Digital people communicate through connection and understanding. They find the deeper meaning in everything they think, see and do. Understanding is very important to them. They feel loved when they share connections with others and are understood. They learn by understanding.
Kinesthetic people communicate through their bodies. They move, feel and express through their bodies. Kinesthetics love to touch, feel, do physical activities and hug. They feel loved when they are touched. They learn through touch and through experience.
So children are not any different. If you are giving children orders or directions and they are not picking up your orders because they are in your own communication mode and not their own communication mode, they will genuinely not pick up or learn what you are trying to tell them or teach them. They are not being stubborn or defiant; they genuinely aren’t receiving it. It’s like you are talking on an AM radio station and your children are receiving on an FM radio station.
For example, my youngest son is a Visual child, and I used to have to repeatedly tell him to pick up his clothes and clean his room, but to him, my auditory orders were basically like the teacher’s on the Charlie Brown cartoons, just a series of muffled noises. But after learning about communication modes, I realized that if I really wanted to get across to him what I wanted, I had to show him what I wanted him to do, or do it with him, since a Visual child, just like Visual adults, likes doing things with you, as does a Kinesthetic child. The result is that now I never have to repeat myself with my son; he picks up and understands my visual cues.
For an Auditory child, if you are a Visual parent and you are showing your child how to clean and tidy up, it won’t have an impact on them unless you tell them what you want and/or narrate as you are doing it. This works for a Digital child as well, if you explain step by step what you are doing so they understand the whole process.
For a Kinesthetic child, let them do a run-through themselves, or let them hold on to or touch what it is that you are teaching or getting them to do. Kinesthetic children learn and remember through touch. Even though a Visual child likes doing, a Visual child can learn by just seeing and watching, whereas a Kinesthetic child has to go through the motions to truly learn.
There is a part of you (especially if you are Visual) saying, “Yeah, I’ll believe it when I see it.” There is also a part of you that is connecting the dots and saying, “Yeah, that makes sense, and that explains why my child does what they do that way.”
So go ahead and come up with creative ways to communicate with your children in their communication modes, and see, hear, understand and/or feel what happens. You may just get that time, energy and peace of mind that you have always wanted, as well as a balanced and happy family, too.
Mar
26
Encouragement Phrases for Teachers and Homeschooling Parents
Filed Under K 12 Education | Leave a Comment
rachel neil asked:
encouragement phrases for teachers
and for parents of homeschooled children
Rachel Neil
We all need encouragements from time to time and I’ve listed many here for you and me!
A teacher affects eternity, he can never tell where his influence stops: Henry Adams.
Your successes may not show up in the classroom but don’t despair because they’ll show up when you least expect it!
When you wonder why you ever became a teacher, close your eyes and recapture the first moment that inspired you to teach.
Don’t let your concern for tomorrow keep you from making an impact today.
It doesn’t matter how big your budget is: it matters that you are a good steward of what you’ve been given.
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently: Henry Ford
Take time to look at the winning team and find out what they do to win.
Be grateful for parents who involve themselves in their child’s education; they can make your job so much easier.
Remember that when you are put in charge, you must take charge.
Encouragement is oxygen to the soul: George M. Adams.
Rule with mercy and grace, and your reward will be great.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them: Mother Theresa.
If you miss the little things, you miss the vast majority of life.
If your child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate: Dorothy Nolte
Take the extra time to get to know your students and show you care.
It takes some children longer than others to rise to the occasion. Remember to give them time and not rush to fix a problem that may adjust itself.
By learning you will teach, by teaching you will learn. : Latin proverb.
Don’t be afraid to become a student of your students.
The fire you light in your students for learning will affect them for a lifetime.
Good teachers pick their battles instead of picking on students.
Don’t limit a child to your own learning for he was born in another time. : Rabbinical saying.
Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. : Calvin Coolidge
If you give up, you give up on your students. They deserve your perseverance.
The way your travel through life is the most powerful legacy you can give your students.
Spice up your teaching. Bring a new excitement into your classroom.
If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one. : Dolly Parton.
Make sure your choose your own path, and stick to it.
The secret of success is constancy to purpose. : Benjamin Disraeli.
The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever waster. : Aesop.
Tell parents the positive first, it makes the negative more palatable later.
It takes 72 muscles to frown, but only 13 to smile.
If you’re a seasoned teacher, take steps to make new teachers feel welcome.
Be gracious and understanding in dealing with parents, keeping in mind that they are entrusting you with their most treasured gifts.
A heart of compassion and belief can be the very thing that causes a student to make it.
Choose not to label your students by their behaviors. Help them evolve into something better than they thought they could be.
Remember not to get so wrapped up in life that you miss the beauty that is around you.
Quality schools are the result of quality teachers going above and beyond the call of duty.
You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist. : Indira Ghandi.
Be a friend to thyself, and others will be so too. : Thomas Fuller.
Reach out and get to know your colleagues, you may discover a kindred spirit.
Labels belong on cans. They’re not for people.
What comes from the heart, goes to the heart. : Samuel Taylor Coleridge.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. : Eleanor Roosevelt.
Overlook intimidation. Stand tall in the position which you have rightly earned.
If you find yourself frustrated with others because they are failing to meet your expectations. Check your own standing first.
Rise to the occasion and dare to be different, Allow some individuality in your students. Only then will you discover their true potential.
Your undying commitment may well be met by undying gratitude.
It is impossible for a man to be made happy by putting him in a happy place, unless he be first in a happy state. : Benjamin Whichcote
If a friend is in trouble, don’t annoy him by asking him if there’s anything you can do. Think of something appropriate, and do it. : E.W.Howe
Imagination is more important than knowledge.: Albert Einstein
Is your classroom a safe place to dream?
Let them see your laugh, and you let them see your heart.
Every child is an artist, the problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up. : Pablo Picasso
Encourage the artistic soul discovered in your students.
Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being. : Johann Wolgang von Goethe
Give your students a chance, and they might well make you proud.
Nothing has a better effect upon children than praise. : Sir. P. Sidney
You know how well you do when you’re complimented: don’t forget to share the wealth with your students.
The rain falls on all the fields, but crops grow only in those that have been tilled and sown.: Chinese saying.
You know the commitment it takes to be a teacher. Respect the parents who make that commitment themselves.
Unless you try, you don’t know what you can’t do.: Henry James.
Some of the best discoveries are made when we simply try.
When you do what you love, you do it well, no matter the circumstances.
Be a supporter of the team, not an opponent.
People only see what they are prepared to see. : Ralph Waldo Emerson
Define your goals, then every once in a while as yourself: Am I on track?
Act enthusiastic and you become enthusiastic.: Dale Carnegie
Reinforce a positive attitude within your students.
Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it you will land among the stars. : Les Brown
Remember how you benefit from simple acts of kindness, bestow those same gifts on your students.
If building yourself up is tearing others down, then it’s time to rethink your priorities.
Make understanding your priority before trying to be understood.
Allow your opinions to be enriched by the insight of others.
I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure- try to please everybody. : Herbert Bayard Swope.
Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. : Mark Twain.
Your smile could be just what your students need today.
encouragement phrases for teachers
and for parents of homeschooled children
Rachel Neil
We all need encouragements from time to time and I’ve listed many here for you and me!
A teacher affects eternity, he can never tell where his influence stops: Henry Adams.
Your successes may not show up in the classroom but don’t despair because they’ll show up when you least expect it!
When you wonder why you ever became a teacher, close your eyes and recapture the first moment that inspired you to teach.
Don’t let your concern for tomorrow keep you from making an impact today.
It doesn’t matter how big your budget is: it matters that you are a good steward of what you’ve been given.
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently: Henry Ford
Take time to look at the winning team and find out what they do to win.
Be grateful for parents who involve themselves in their child’s education; they can make your job so much easier.
Remember that when you are put in charge, you must take charge.
Encouragement is oxygen to the soul: George M. Adams.
Rule with mercy and grace, and your reward will be great.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them: Mother Theresa.
If you miss the little things, you miss the vast majority of life.
If your child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate: Dorothy Nolte
Take the extra time to get to know your students and show you care.
It takes some children longer than others to rise to the occasion. Remember to give them time and not rush to fix a problem that may adjust itself.
By learning you will teach, by teaching you will learn. : Latin proverb.
Don’t be afraid to become a student of your students.
The fire you light in your students for learning will affect them for a lifetime.
Good teachers pick their battles instead of picking on students.
Don’t limit a child to your own learning for he was born in another time. : Rabbinical saying.
Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. : Calvin Coolidge
If you give up, you give up on your students. They deserve your perseverance.
The way your travel through life is the most powerful legacy you can give your students.
Spice up your teaching. Bring a new excitement into your classroom.
If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one. : Dolly Parton.
Make sure your choose your own path, and stick to it.
The secret of success is constancy to purpose. : Benjamin Disraeli.
The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever waster. : Aesop.
Tell parents the positive first, it makes the negative more palatable later.
It takes 72 muscles to frown, but only 13 to smile.
If you’re a seasoned teacher, take steps to make new teachers feel welcome.
Be gracious and understanding in dealing with parents, keeping in mind that they are entrusting you with their most treasured gifts.
A heart of compassion and belief can be the very thing that causes a student to make it.
Choose not to label your students by their behaviors. Help them evolve into something better than they thought they could be.
Remember not to get so wrapped up in life that you miss the beauty that is around you.
Quality schools are the result of quality teachers going above and beyond the call of duty.
You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist. : Indira Ghandi.
Be a friend to thyself, and others will be so too. : Thomas Fuller.
Reach out and get to know your colleagues, you may discover a kindred spirit.
Labels belong on cans. They’re not for people.
What comes from the heart, goes to the heart. : Samuel Taylor Coleridge.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. : Eleanor Roosevelt.
Overlook intimidation. Stand tall in the position which you have rightly earned.
If you find yourself frustrated with others because they are failing to meet your expectations. Check your own standing first.
Rise to the occasion and dare to be different, Allow some individuality in your students. Only then will you discover their true potential.
Your undying commitment may well be met by undying gratitude.
It is impossible for a man to be made happy by putting him in a happy place, unless he be first in a happy state. : Benjamin Whichcote
If a friend is in trouble, don’t annoy him by asking him if there’s anything you can do. Think of something appropriate, and do it. : E.W.Howe
Imagination is more important than knowledge.: Albert Einstein
Is your classroom a safe place to dream?
Let them see your laugh, and you let them see your heart.
Every child is an artist, the problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up. : Pablo Picasso
Encourage the artistic soul discovered in your students.
Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being. : Johann Wolgang von Goethe
Give your students a chance, and they might well make you proud.
Nothing has a better effect upon children than praise. : Sir. P. Sidney
You know how well you do when you’re complimented: don’t forget to share the wealth with your students.
The rain falls on all the fields, but crops grow only in those that have been tilled and sown.: Chinese saying.
You know the commitment it takes to be a teacher. Respect the parents who make that commitment themselves.
Unless you try, you don’t know what you can’t do.: Henry James.
Some of the best discoveries are made when we simply try.
When you do what you love, you do it well, no matter the circumstances.
Be a supporter of the team, not an opponent.
People only see what they are prepared to see. : Ralph Waldo Emerson
Define your goals, then every once in a while as yourself: Am I on track?
Act enthusiastic and you become enthusiastic.: Dale Carnegie
Reinforce a positive attitude within your students.
Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it you will land among the stars. : Les Brown
Remember how you benefit from simple acts of kindness, bestow those same gifts on your students.
If building yourself up is tearing others down, then it’s time to rethink your priorities.
Make understanding your priority before trying to be understood.
Allow your opinions to be enriched by the insight of others.
I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure- try to please everybody. : Herbert Bayard Swope.
Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. : Mark Twain.
Your smile could be just what your students need today.
Mar
21
sslowbliss asked:
any age. some of the best parenting tips ive ever heard were on random message boards or comments lists by moms.
any age. some of the best parenting tips ive ever heard were on random message boards or comments lists by moms.
Mar
19
parenting tips for parents with teens?
Filed Under Adolescent | 6 Comments
jazzy phizzle asked:
hey. im working on a magazine and and theres a section on parenting tips. do you have any tips that i can use.please put your age,and if you are a teen, parent, or non-parent
hey. im working on a magazine and and theres a section on parenting tips. do you have any tips that i can use.please put your age,and if you are a teen, parent, or non-parent
Mar
12
Len Stauffenger asked:
These are the first 5 of 10 Effective Parenting Tips - look for the next 5 in our next article.
Your kids deserve your very best all the time. You’ve only got one chance to mold them into the kind of adult who is productive, thoughtful, enthusiastic, visionary and hardworking. You won’t always feel good about doing what is necessary, but remembering that you’ve only got one chance to get it right for them will help you do what you need to do. Here are five effective parenting tips to help you:
1. There Is No Tomorrow. You’ve only got right now, today, to do the right thing and to be there emotionally for your children.. Once this “right now” is gone, it’s gone forever. Decide that you will make the most of every single moment as often as possible. Decide that you will give them your complete attention even if it means setting your stuff aside. Of course you won’t be at the 100% level. No one is. But if you decide in this right now moment to utilize as many of the following right now moments with your kid’s benefit held at the forefront, they will benefit from your decision.
2. Begin With The End In Mind. It won’t do any good when your child is eighteen years old to look back and wish you’d done things differently. Right now is when you get to make the decisions that will affect his getting to eighteen. Think through what you’d like that to be and then think about how you’ll have to “be” in the intervening years to help your child accomplish that. Be sure to listen to what your child says he wants and weave that into the plan. Help your child become an achiever. Your primary goal as a parent is to give your children the tools that they can use to lead happy, healthy and successful lives. That’s all that matters. That is your magnificent obsession. Remind yourself each day of the goal you’re working towards and remind yourself that it doesn’t happen in a single day.
3. Your Influence Is Greatest Every Day. Teaching is what you do every time you interact with your children. And it always happens today. There isn’t a moment when you are not teaching your children - if you’re helping with schoolwork, watching their team sports or just sitting down to the family meals. It doesn’t matter if you’re having dinner in your kitchen or if you’re a part-time parent who is having dinner at McDonald’s. What matters is that you’re really there. You are a guide and an anchor. Know that you are a teacher, that you are a role model. That’s how you will have the greatest impact on your children. Parenting is about the millions of “small things” and not about big events or sounding great when you talk about them. It’s about the quiet times and the little things.
4. Listen To Them. You’ll Be Amazed. One of the most important things you can do to fully be with your children is to listen to them with full attention. When that little voice in your head is rattling on incessantly about the past or the future, or coming up with an answer to what you think they’re saying, you’re not really hearing what they say. If you’re not present with your children, they know it. What is the message you’re telling them if you’re not present? They’re not worthy? They’re not important? They’re not valuable? Stop. Look. Listen. That means stop what you’re doing, stop watching the T.V., stop reading the paper, stop thinking about other things. Look. Look into their eyes, you’re less likely to be distracted when you’re looking into their eyes. Listen. Don’t let that voice in your head drown them out. Sometimes to make sure I’m listening, I will repeat in my head what they’re saying.
5. Control Your Emotions. Don’t yell at your children. If you yell at children, they do not hear you. Instead, you’re simply upsetting them. That doesn’t mean if you’ve yelled at your children, you’re going to destroy their psyche. Remember, take the long view. We’re building a foundation one brick at a time. None of us is perfect. Yelling at your children and upsetting them once will have no effect on them. Yelling at them the entire time they grow up, well…..let’s hope that somehow children who have to deal with that eventually learn how to overcome it. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle. The point here is that it’s not effective. It’s not promoting your magnificent obsession. See if you can pinpoint what kicks off that emotion. It’s not your children. Keep in mind your goal of being a great parent and then create a disconnect. Emotions aren’t a bad thing. The problem is that we have triggers that release our emotions without thinking.
If you use these effective parenting tips, you’ll be on your way to a healthy and happier relationship with your children. Look for five more tips in our next installment in this series.
These are the first 5 of 10 Effective Parenting Tips - look for the next 5 in our next article.
Your kids deserve your very best all the time. You’ve only got one chance to mold them into the kind of adult who is productive, thoughtful, enthusiastic, visionary and hardworking. You won’t always feel good about doing what is necessary, but remembering that you’ve only got one chance to get it right for them will help you do what you need to do. Here are five effective parenting tips to help you:
1. There Is No Tomorrow. You’ve only got right now, today, to do the right thing and to be there emotionally for your children.. Once this “right now” is gone, it’s gone forever. Decide that you will make the most of every single moment as often as possible. Decide that you will give them your complete attention even if it means setting your stuff aside. Of course you won’t be at the 100% level. No one is. But if you decide in this right now moment to utilize as many of the following right now moments with your kid’s benefit held at the forefront, they will benefit from your decision.
2. Begin With The End In Mind. It won’t do any good when your child is eighteen years old to look back and wish you’d done things differently. Right now is when you get to make the decisions that will affect his getting to eighteen. Think through what you’d like that to be and then think about how you’ll have to “be” in the intervening years to help your child accomplish that. Be sure to listen to what your child says he wants and weave that into the plan. Help your child become an achiever. Your primary goal as a parent is to give your children the tools that they can use to lead happy, healthy and successful lives. That’s all that matters. That is your magnificent obsession. Remind yourself each day of the goal you’re working towards and remind yourself that it doesn’t happen in a single day.
3. Your Influence Is Greatest Every Day. Teaching is what you do every time you interact with your children. And it always happens today. There isn’t a moment when you are not teaching your children - if you’re helping with schoolwork, watching their team sports or just sitting down to the family meals. It doesn’t matter if you’re having dinner in your kitchen or if you’re a part-time parent who is having dinner at McDonald’s. What matters is that you’re really there. You are a guide and an anchor. Know that you are a teacher, that you are a role model. That’s how you will have the greatest impact on your children. Parenting is about the millions of “small things” and not about big events or sounding great when you talk about them. It’s about the quiet times and the little things.
4. Listen To Them. You’ll Be Amazed. One of the most important things you can do to fully be with your children is to listen to them with full attention. When that little voice in your head is rattling on incessantly about the past or the future, or coming up with an answer to what you think they’re saying, you’re not really hearing what they say. If you’re not present with your children, they know it. What is the message you’re telling them if you’re not present? They’re not worthy? They’re not important? They’re not valuable? Stop. Look. Listen. That means stop what you’re doing, stop watching the T.V., stop reading the paper, stop thinking about other things. Look. Look into their eyes, you’re less likely to be distracted when you’re looking into their eyes. Listen. Don’t let that voice in your head drown them out. Sometimes to make sure I’m listening, I will repeat in my head what they’re saying.
5. Control Your Emotions. Don’t yell at your children. If you yell at children, they do not hear you. Instead, you’re simply upsetting them. That doesn’t mean if you’ve yelled at your children, you’re going to destroy their psyche. Remember, take the long view. We’re building a foundation one brick at a time. None of us is perfect. Yelling at your children and upsetting them once will have no effect on them. Yelling at them the entire time they grow up, well…..let’s hope that somehow children who have to deal with that eventually learn how to overcome it. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle. The point here is that it’s not effective. It’s not promoting your magnificent obsession. See if you can pinpoint what kicks off that emotion. It’s not your children. Keep in mind your goal of being a great parent and then create a disconnect. Emotions aren’t a bad thing. The problem is that we have triggers that release our emotions without thinking.
If you use these effective parenting tips, you’ll be on your way to a healthy and happier relationship with your children. Look for five more tips in our next installment in this series.
Mar
12
Recipe for Enchantment - The Three R’s: Remembering the Best, Restoring Yourself, Rapture
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Barbara Holstein asked:
In today’s world there are so many wonderful and inspirational books. There are books filled with stories of Divine intervention, miracles happening, special positive moments never to be forgotten and stories of incredible coincidences. They help make us feel in harmony with the universe. They help us fall asleep and have pleasant dreams. They often bring tears to our eyes, reinforcing an inner sense of wisdom that all is right with the world even when appearances say that is not so.
But there is one thing often missing from these books. It is the mental and emotional perspiration that we need to go through as we struggle to live a life of meaning and joy. The inspiration is there but it’s the perspiration that most of us need to put into our daily lives to create for ourselves lives of enchantment. Because, enchantment for most of us, i.e., living a life of joy, a life that reflects many states of well being, again and again, is hard work.
Certainly we yearn for moments when the right thing happens at exactly the right time and the world opens up for us, whether it’s a lucky break, meeting the right life partner or winning the lottery. And we all need at least some of those moments. But life, in reality, is filled with hundreds and thousands and probably millions of minutes that are repetitive, boring or simply ordinary. They involve getting up, brushing our teeth, driving to work safely, keeping a job, raising children, fighting off a cold, etc. It is all these times that THE ENCHANTED SELF focuses on.
These are the moments that can be mundane, depressing, dull or can be captivating, enlivening and filled with joy.
What is the difference? The difference is usually the perspiration. I mean the mental and emotional perspiration that is involved in what I call the three R’s of enchantment. Let’s look at the first of the three R’s.
The first is REMEMBERING THE BEST AND LETTING GO OF THE REST. This is a critical component to general well being and a sense of happiness on a daily basis. Most of us have sustained loss and experienced pain. Yes, we’ve been hurt. We’ve been short-changed by opportunities or other people. Sometimes we’ve been stepped upon, left or forgotten.
If we spend our daily life focusing on these disappointments then we cannot release the positive energies we need to make the most of the present moment and to plan for the future. Grudges, negative thinking, disappointments, and not forgiving all get in the way of what can be done with the present. We need our psyche energies to seize opportunities we can take advantage of. This can’t happen, if our energies are used up ruminating.
Besides, there is beauty in our own story and most, if not all disappointments we’ve experienced have strengthened us. Often, we have even developed talents in coping with hard times that can reemerge in ways to enhance pleasure and/or help us be of service to the world. For example, the child that was neglected or yelled at has an opportunity to be particularly kind to others as he or she gets older, maybe to teach others certain parenting skills having known first hand how it feels on the other side.
How do we take all the moments of life that are often repetitive and ordinary, and turn them into captivating personal times? One way is through optimizing our own sense of well being. This internal state is particularly reactive to our emotional and physical states of health. For instance, I remember occasions when good things were about to happen, but I was so overtired or anxious that I could not appreciate a special day. I also remember occasions when nothing happened, but because I felt well rested and truly at peace with myself I enjoyed every moment.
How do we work on restoring ourselves? How do we gather our positive energies to be in our own best interest? Certainly one of the most critical factors is seeing yourself in a positive light. If I don’t truly value myself, I am certainly not going to take good care of myself. I am more responsive to the criticism from a negative spouse or parent than my own inner feelings of self worth. I may not take good care of myself and the results can be devastating. Over the years I have seen so many clients who were not thriving because they had internalized negative comments, criticism and opinions from others. The end result was that they began to believe the negative perceptions of themselves and ultimately saw themselves in a poor light.
It is very important to see yourself in a positive light. This means not putting yourself down and not criticizing yourself. It means becoming your own best friend. Often taking better care of yourself becomes essential. For all of us, it is important to get enough rest, eat well, learn how to sort through the negative remarks that hurt, not get caught up and lost in the feelings those remarks engendered, and to value who we really are and what each of us has to offer the world.
This “R” is extremely difficult and involves a lot of mental and emotional perspiration. We are vulnerable to absorbing criticism and negative remarks about ourselves and actually internalizing them, making them ours. So there is much work to be done when we start to sift through feelings that we are less rather than more. We need to think of ourselves as more, not less.
I remember one client who had struggled to begin think of herself as more, not less. Her husband was often critical of her and constantly interruptive. For example when eating out he would often criticize her and spoil her pleasure by suggesting she had put on some pounds and might not want to order a particular item. Around the house he would barge into a room and interrupt her telephone conversation or television show. He would then bring up a subject in which she was presented as the culprit.
It was a wonderful day in her life when she was simply able to say when her husband interrupted her, “I am leaving the house for a few hours. I hope upon my return your mood will be better and you will be treating me more appropriately.” She then took the car keys and went to visit a friend. When she came back he was pleasant and in a totally different state. Although this was only part of the correction between them, it was a momentous moment in giving her a sense that not only must she think of herself as more, not less, but she also must have the courage to take positive appropriate action.
Rapture is a strong, full word that incorporates a capacity for joy that affects us in our own mind, body and spirit. It is a feeling of being in harmony in a euphoric or an ecstatic way with others or the universe at large. Obviously, we don’t go around in a state of rapture all the time. To experience even states of well being on a regular basis involves tremendous daily practice. Yet, if we work and we perspire, mentally, emotionally, socially we will be rewarded. How? For one thing, the positive actions we take in our lives are pleasing to us and good for us.
In my new book RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!, I talk about so many occasions when people took positive actions and then had the pleasant rewarding experience of positive feelings. These positive feelings varied from person to person yet included the whole spectrum of well being, including joyousness, contentment, satisfaction, pleasure and on occasion, rapture.
In my book I share a reverie that I had one night. I imagined all of my friends and loved ones and then strangers from around the world coming together in big circles dancing in the moonlight. We danced until dawn in my reverie. There was a sense of euphoria that built leading to me to experiencing great joy and even rapture as I indulged in my visualization. I share this one with you because it points out that positive actions can take the form of positive thoughts! Often we dismiss our inner life. I think it’s important to document that our inner life is a very real place where we practice many of the states of well being that ultimately take shape through expression in the real world.
Although I have not danced through the night in the moonlight with hundreds of thousands of people, the feelings I had in that reverie certainly translate into many of the positive actions that I take in sharing THE ENCHANTED SELF message. As a matter of fact, without my inner life, I doubt there would be the energy to bring these teachings to others.
Yes, obviously in this discussion we are moving toward the spiritual. Ultimately, the positive energies that we have to give the world require mind, body and spirit. And so you see that enchantment is all about putting the meat in your soul’s soup. It is about the muscle that goes with living a life of joy. Perspiration, daily practice, and daily routines that enhance the possibilities of living a life of enchantment, are all of hard work.
Just remember though, before you get discouraged, it is even harder to live a miserable life. We pay for misery in so many ways. We pay for it in feeling fatigued and feeling that we don’t have real purpose. We feel inside that there’s a hole in our hearts or that we have missed the boat. We can feel aggravated, tense, fed up. We can feel that the future will be as miserable as the past. We can feel that we are ordinary rather than extraordinary. We can pay for a negative attitude with more physical and emotional illness so that the perspiration pours off of us in a different way.
I think it’s smarter, since life is a struggle and designed so that we work at whatever we’re doing, that we practice enchantment and enjoy the perspiration and inspiration that goes with the practice. So promise yourself to take the JOYRIDE OF YOUR LIFE!
In today’s world there are so many wonderful and inspirational books. There are books filled with stories of Divine intervention, miracles happening, special positive moments never to be forgotten and stories of incredible coincidences. They help make us feel in harmony with the universe. They help us fall asleep and have pleasant dreams. They often bring tears to our eyes, reinforcing an inner sense of wisdom that all is right with the world even when appearances say that is not so.
But there is one thing often missing from these books. It is the mental and emotional perspiration that we need to go through as we struggle to live a life of meaning and joy. The inspiration is there but it’s the perspiration that most of us need to put into our daily lives to create for ourselves lives of enchantment. Because, enchantment for most of us, i.e., living a life of joy, a life that reflects many states of well being, again and again, is hard work.
Certainly we yearn for moments when the right thing happens at exactly the right time and the world opens up for us, whether it’s a lucky break, meeting the right life partner or winning the lottery. And we all need at least some of those moments. But life, in reality, is filled with hundreds and thousands and probably millions of minutes that are repetitive, boring or simply ordinary. They involve getting up, brushing our teeth, driving to work safely, keeping a job, raising children, fighting off a cold, etc. It is all these times that THE ENCHANTED SELF focuses on.
These are the moments that can be mundane, depressing, dull or can be captivating, enlivening and filled with joy.
What is the difference? The difference is usually the perspiration. I mean the mental and emotional perspiration that is involved in what I call the three R’s of enchantment. Let’s look at the first of the three R’s.
The first is REMEMBERING THE BEST AND LETTING GO OF THE REST. This is a critical component to general well being and a sense of happiness on a daily basis. Most of us have sustained loss and experienced pain. Yes, we’ve been hurt. We’ve been short-changed by opportunities or other people. Sometimes we’ve been stepped upon, left or forgotten.
If we spend our daily life focusing on these disappointments then we cannot release the positive energies we need to make the most of the present moment and to plan for the future. Grudges, negative thinking, disappointments, and not forgiving all get in the way of what can be done with the present. We need our psyche energies to seize opportunities we can take advantage of. This can’t happen, if our energies are used up ruminating.
Besides, there is beauty in our own story and most, if not all disappointments we’ve experienced have strengthened us. Often, we have even developed talents in coping with hard times that can reemerge in ways to enhance pleasure and/or help us be of service to the world. For example, the child that was neglected or yelled at has an opportunity to be particularly kind to others as he or she gets older, maybe to teach others certain parenting skills having known first hand how it feels on the other side.
How do we take all the moments of life that are often repetitive and ordinary, and turn them into captivating personal times? One way is through optimizing our own sense of well being. This internal state is particularly reactive to our emotional and physical states of health. For instance, I remember occasions when good things were about to happen, but I was so overtired or anxious that I could not appreciate a special day. I also remember occasions when nothing happened, but because I felt well rested and truly at peace with myself I enjoyed every moment.
How do we work on restoring ourselves? How do we gather our positive energies to be in our own best interest? Certainly one of the most critical factors is seeing yourself in a positive light. If I don’t truly value myself, I am certainly not going to take good care of myself. I am more responsive to the criticism from a negative spouse or parent than my own inner feelings of self worth. I may not take good care of myself and the results can be devastating. Over the years I have seen so many clients who were not thriving because they had internalized negative comments, criticism and opinions from others. The end result was that they began to believe the negative perceptions of themselves and ultimately saw themselves in a poor light.
It is very important to see yourself in a positive light. This means not putting yourself down and not criticizing yourself. It means becoming your own best friend. Often taking better care of yourself becomes essential. For all of us, it is important to get enough rest, eat well, learn how to sort through the negative remarks that hurt, not get caught up and lost in the feelings those remarks engendered, and to value who we really are and what each of us has to offer the world.
This “R” is extremely difficult and involves a lot of mental and emotional perspiration. We are vulnerable to absorbing criticism and negative remarks about ourselves and actually internalizing them, making them ours. So there is much work to be done when we start to sift through feelings that we are less rather than more. We need to think of ourselves as more, not less.
I remember one client who had struggled to begin think of herself as more, not less. Her husband was often critical of her and constantly interruptive. For example when eating out he would often criticize her and spoil her pleasure by suggesting she had put on some pounds and might not want to order a particular item. Around the house he would barge into a room and interrupt her telephone conversation or television show. He would then bring up a subject in which she was presented as the culprit.
It was a wonderful day in her life when she was simply able to say when her husband interrupted her, “I am leaving the house for a few hours. I hope upon my return your mood will be better and you will be treating me more appropriately.” She then took the car keys and went to visit a friend. When she came back he was pleasant and in a totally different state. Although this was only part of the correction between them, it was a momentous moment in giving her a sense that not only must she think of herself as more, not less, but she also must have the courage to take positive appropriate action.
Rapture is a strong, full word that incorporates a capacity for joy that affects us in our own mind, body and spirit. It is a feeling of being in harmony in a euphoric or an ecstatic way with others or the universe at large. Obviously, we don’t go around in a state of rapture all the time. To experience even states of well being on a regular basis involves tremendous daily practice. Yet, if we work and we perspire, mentally, emotionally, socially we will be rewarded. How? For one thing, the positive actions we take in our lives are pleasing to us and good for us.
In my new book RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!, I talk about so many occasions when people took positive actions and then had the pleasant rewarding experience of positive feelings. These positive feelings varied from person to person yet included the whole spectrum of well being, including joyousness, contentment, satisfaction, pleasure and on occasion, rapture.
In my book I share a reverie that I had one night. I imagined all of my friends and loved ones and then strangers from around the world coming together in big circles dancing in the moonlight. We danced until dawn in my reverie. There was a sense of euphoria that built leading to me to experiencing great joy and even rapture as I indulged in my visualization. I share this one with you because it points out that positive actions can take the form of positive thoughts! Often we dismiss our inner life. I think it’s important to document that our inner life is a very real place where we practice many of the states of well being that ultimately take shape through expression in the real world.
Although I have not danced through the night in the moonlight with hundreds of thousands of people, the feelings I had in that reverie certainly translate into many of the positive actions that I take in sharing THE ENCHANTED SELF message. As a matter of fact, without my inner life, I doubt there would be the energy to bring these teachings to others.
Yes, obviously in this discussion we are moving toward the spiritual. Ultimately, the positive energies that we have to give the world require mind, body and spirit. And so you see that enchantment is all about putting the meat in your soul’s soup. It is about the muscle that goes with living a life of joy. Perspiration, daily practice, and daily routines that enhance the possibilities of living a life of enchantment, are all of hard work.
Just remember though, before you get discouraged, it is even harder to live a miserable life. We pay for misery in so many ways. We pay for it in feeling fatigued and feeling that we don’t have real purpose. We feel inside that there’s a hole in our hearts or that we have missed the boat. We can feel aggravated, tense, fed up. We can feel that the future will be as miserable as the past. We can feel that we are ordinary rather than extraordinary. We can pay for a negative attitude with more physical and emotional illness so that the perspiration pours off of us in a different way.
I think it’s smarter, since life is a struggle and designed so that we work at whatever we’re doing, that we practice enchantment and enjoy the perspiration and inspiration that goes with the practice. So promise yourself to take the JOYRIDE OF YOUR LIFE!
Mar
12
submit111@gmail.com asked:
The world is fast becoming a huge global community. There was a time when it seemed impossible to cross the boarders of different cultures. Today, it is a common occurrence to come across people of different races. Because of these cross cultural encounters, many individuals find spouses of different racial heritages.
There are also some families who find themselves starting lives on the shores of a different country. In such cases, these parents are more than ever in need of a good parenting tip. This is because these parents need to contemplate the need to raise their children in a bilingual environment. Why is bilingualism necessary in some families and what parenting tip do bilingual parents need?
Raising kids in a bilingual environment is actually in itself a good parenting tip. This parenting tip is highly recommended by some bilingual parents for a variety of reasons. Some parents simply feel that bilingual children simply have broader opportunities, better cultural understanding and greater awareness of the global community as bilingual speakers. A parenting tip to encourage bilingualism however should not be given lightly. There are some difficulties involved. Someone who accepts this parenting tip should be aware that some children may find learning two languages difficult or may insist on one language just to fit in. Bilingual parents therefore should consider another parenting tip or a couple of other useful ideas.
Make a Family Decision
The most important parenting tip for bilingual parents is to consciously make the decision as a team. It is a highly recommended parenting tip that both parents feel comfortable about the arrangement. Otherwise one parent may not be supportive at all. Neglecting this parenting tip may make matters unpleasant for one parent and for the children.
Start Early and Be Consistent
Another parenting tip is to start as soon as possible. Some parents may recommend that bilingualism should be introduced as early as infancy. They also offer the additional parenting tip of consistency. Do not stray from your resolve and your methods for bilingual training. At the same time, avoid fierce criticism. This may only push your children into dismissing the minor language.
Use Techniques
An additional parenting tip is to use tried and tested techniques. Some parents both insist on speaking the minority language while at home and allow their children to speak the majority language while outside. In some families, one parent speaks the minority language while the other speaks the majority language when speaking to their children.
Be More Creative
A good parenting tip is to be more creative. Instead of just using proven language teaching techniques, you can also use books, video CDs and playgroups to teach children the minority language. You can also enroll your children in a bilingual school or hire some help who can speak the minority language fluently. You should also consider visiting or constantly communicating with relatives of the minority speaking parent. If there is a bilingual family nearby, make friends with them and introduce your kids to theirs.
Consult Experts
A final parenting tip is to consult language or education experts when you are clueless about the situation. This may be especially relevant for parents who may have a child who has language difficulties. If your child has difficulty speaking at a very advanced age, it may be an indication of deeper problems and should not be simply dismissed as difficulty with managing two languages.
The world is fast becoming a huge global community. There was a time when it seemed impossible to cross the boarders of different cultures. Today, it is a common occurrence to come across people of different races. Because of these cross cultural encounters, many individuals find spouses of different racial heritages.
There are also some families who find themselves starting lives on the shores of a different country. In such cases, these parents are more than ever in need of a good parenting tip. This is because these parents need to contemplate the need to raise their children in a bilingual environment. Why is bilingualism necessary in some families and what parenting tip do bilingual parents need?
Raising kids in a bilingual environment is actually in itself a good parenting tip. This parenting tip is highly recommended by some bilingual parents for a variety of reasons. Some parents simply feel that bilingual children simply have broader opportunities, better cultural understanding and greater awareness of the global community as bilingual speakers. A parenting tip to encourage bilingualism however should not be given lightly. There are some difficulties involved. Someone who accepts this parenting tip should be aware that some children may find learning two languages difficult or may insist on one language just to fit in. Bilingual parents therefore should consider another parenting tip or a couple of other useful ideas.
Make a Family Decision
The most important parenting tip for bilingual parents is to consciously make the decision as a team. It is a highly recommended parenting tip that both parents feel comfortable about the arrangement. Otherwise one parent may not be supportive at all. Neglecting this parenting tip may make matters unpleasant for one parent and for the children.
Start Early and Be Consistent
Another parenting tip is to start as soon as possible. Some parents may recommend that bilingualism should be introduced as early as infancy. They also offer the additional parenting tip of consistency. Do not stray from your resolve and your methods for bilingual training. At the same time, avoid fierce criticism. This may only push your children into dismissing the minor language.
Use Techniques
An additional parenting tip is to use tried and tested techniques. Some parents both insist on speaking the minority language while at home and allow their children to speak the majority language while outside. In some families, one parent speaks the minority language while the other speaks the majority language when speaking to their children.
Be More Creative
A good parenting tip is to be more creative. Instead of just using proven language teaching techniques, you can also use books, video CDs and playgroups to teach children the minority language. You can also enroll your children in a bilingual school or hire some help who can speak the minority language fluently. You should also consider visiting or constantly communicating with relatives of the minority speaking parent. If there is a bilingual family nearby, make friends with them and introduce your kids to theirs.
Consult Experts
A final parenting tip is to consult language or education experts when you are clueless about the situation. This may be especially relevant for parents who may have a child who has language difficulties. If your child has difficulty speaking at a very advanced age, it may be an indication of deeper problems and should not be simply dismissed as difficulty with managing two languages.
Mar
9
Why do some adoptive children not want contact with Birth families?
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Moongrl76 asked:
I know it’s not surprising that their are cases that SOME adoptive children don’t want contact with their Birth parents. Some one near and dear to me was contacted by her Birth daughter when she graduated High School at 17 yrs old. She was over joyed; she never thought this day would come. She was over the moon! Thrilled; excited! Get my point? She’s dreamed of this moment for 17 yrs. They exchanged letters pictures a few times and it seemed like they were on their way to a happy reunion. But as time went by her birth daughter decided NOW was not the right time to meet. She doesn’t know when she wants to meet her. It broke my friends HEART. All she ever wanted was to be part of her life. She choose the family for her baby. It was an open adoption back in 1988. She had pictures and updates for the first 5 yrs but then she decided give the family privacy to raise their daughter without interference. She moved on with her life by going to college and meeting her husband. They have been together and have three amazing children. I asked her recently if she had heard from her birth daughter and she said no! She said maybe this is the way it’s suppose to be; I’m one of those cases that won’t have a happy ending. The only way she can get through this difficult time is to accept the idea THEY will never have a Reunion. She doesn’t want anything to do with a child who doesn’t want anything to do with her. Is this the healthy way for her handle this? Any adult adoptee’s who can give me any advice?
I know it’s not surprising that their are cases that SOME adoptive children don’t want contact with their Birth parents. Some one near and dear to me was contacted by her Birth daughter when she graduated High School at 17 yrs old. She was over joyed; she never thought this day would come. She was over the moon! Thrilled; excited! Get my point? She’s dreamed of this moment for 17 yrs. They exchanged letters pictures a few times and it seemed like they were on their way to a happy reunion. But as time went by her birth daughter decided NOW was not the right time to meet. She doesn’t know when she wants to meet her. It broke my friends HEART. All she ever wanted was to be part of her life. She choose the family for her baby. It was an open adoption back in 1988. She had pictures and updates for the first 5 yrs but then she decided give the family privacy to raise their daughter without interference. She moved on with her life by going to college and meeting her husband. They have been together and have three amazing children. I asked her recently if she had heard from her birth daughter and she said no! She said maybe this is the way it’s suppose to be; I’m one of those cases that won’t have a happy ending. The only way she can get through this difficult time is to accept the idea THEY will never have a Reunion. She doesn’t want anything to do with a child who doesn’t want anything to do with her. Is this the healthy way for her handle this? Any adult adoptee’s who can give me any advice?
Mar
8
Jeannie Frantree asked:
This makes EFA’s an important part of your diet. Other sources of these fats are fish and nuts. The best manner of extracting the oil while maintaining all the health benefits of the omega-3 fatty acids is by cold pressing the seed. In this form of oil extraction the flax seed oil is pressed out of the seed and not exposed to heat.
But now let’s talk about the nutritional values of flax seed. They are the best source for Omega 3 fatty acids, which is great for the brain and concentration. Adding flax seeds to your diet can increase your ability to concentrate better and think faster.
The types of fats present in the brain influence its structure and function. How well your mind works depends, in the long run, on what you eat.
Besides lignans, flaxseeds and their oil are also the best food sources of an essential fatty acid, alpha-linolenic acid. “Essential” means we must consume it, because our bodies cannot manufacture it.
Are Weight Loss Supplements Right For You?
The debate about whether supplements for weight loss are healthy or not will go on and on for years to come. There are good and bad points to using weight loss supplements. One of the bad points is that once you stop taking them you gain everything back that you lost to begin with.
Most doctors will tell you that weight loss supplements are not necessary and that only a good controlled diet along with daily exercise is the only thing one needs to lose weight. This is true. however with today’s working society with 2 parents working and trying to raise children at the same time who has time for exercise? Who has time to plan good nutritional meals?
I know first hand what this is all about. My wife is probably around 60 pounds over weight. Now before we go any further I would just like to say that I love her just as much now as I did when we first met. Her weight does not bother me. She is a beautiful person both inside and out. But I know inside she is hurting. And for the last several years she has struggled with her weight almost daily. And the biggest problem as I mentioned above is time. Time to prepare good quality nutritious meals both for her self and the children. Time to do sufficient exercise in order to burn off calories.Our schedule is chaotic to say the least. She works from 9:00 AM till 5:00 PM. I work from 3:30 PM till 12:00 AM . When I’m not with the kids she is with the kids. Only on weekends do the kids have both parents home at the same time.
Flax Hull Lignans are very beneficial for many health conditions. Studies have shown that SDG or lignan (secoisolariciresinol diglycoside, but for simplicity this substance will be referred to as lignans) The effects of flaxseed on blood glucose levels are not clear, although hyperglycemic effects have been reported in one case series. However, this should not deter you from getting healthier with flax seed oil!
Researchers found low incidences of ****** cancer and colon cancer in populations that have high amounts of Lignan in their diet.
There are many benefits to adding flax seeds to your diet. Well for instance they can get rid of your constipation problem.
But that should come as no big surprise, since any highly unsaturated oil will do that, particularly if substituted for saturated fats.
Back to supplements. First they will not work if you do not get the proper diet and at least exercise once per week. My wife has tried supplements and they did work for her. What supplements do is to help speed up your metabolism rate decreasing the need for daily exercise. They also supplement the nutrition needed that you may not be getting from your diet for proper weight loss. Weight loss supplements actually regulate your blood sugar level, this helps you overcome severe sugar and carbohydrate cravings that sabotage even the most strong-willed weight loss efforts. So are weight loss nutrition supplements right for you? When my wife lost 40 pounds using supplements she felt great. She was happy and gained allot of self esteem back. Not to mention that she had allot more energy. If you have a hectic schedule and cannot find enough time in the day to prepare proper nutritional meals and get regular daily exercise then I suggest you give supplements a try.
My opinion is that if they help you to lose weight and make you feel good about yourself again then go for it. What do you have to lose except a few pounds. There are hundreds of products on the internet you can try. A couple of my wife’s favorites can be found at the following web page. http://weight-loss-nutrition-supplements.com
You can also get good information on dieting and weight loss at this site along with a very handy calorie calculator. Heart disease is by far the #1 killer in the U. S., although 1/3 of those deaths could be prevented if people exercised more and followed better diets, the American Heart Association said in an annual report.
Avoid or limit these oils. Omega-3, meanwhile, is typically found in flaxseed oil, walnut oil, and fish. However, flax seed oil is the best oil where Omega-3 and Omega-6 are balanced. Flax Seed muffins pregents Cancer? Find Flax Seed Recipe today! Omega-3 for health!
Essential fatty acids are further metabolized into hormone-like substances in the cell known as prostaglandins. Prostaglandins are involved in the regulation of many important physiological functions. Randomized clinical trials have shown that omega-3 fatty acid supplements can reduce cardiovascular events (death, non-fatal heart attacks, non-fatal strokes). They can also slow the progression of atherosclerosis in coronary patients.
It may also keep platelets from becoming sticky therefore reducing the chance of a heart attack. Other independent researches has also confirmed this finding.
This makes EFA’s an important part of your diet. Other sources of these fats are fish and nuts. The best manner of extracting the oil while maintaining all the health benefits of the omega-3 fatty acids is by cold pressing the seed. In this form of oil extraction the flax seed oil is pressed out of the seed and not exposed to heat.
But now let’s talk about the nutritional values of flax seed. They are the best source for Omega 3 fatty acids, which is great for the brain and concentration. Adding flax seeds to your diet can increase your ability to concentrate better and think faster.
The types of fats present in the brain influence its structure and function. How well your mind works depends, in the long run, on what you eat.
Besides lignans, flaxseeds and their oil are also the best food sources of an essential fatty acid, alpha-linolenic acid. “Essential” means we must consume it, because our bodies cannot manufacture it.
Are Weight Loss Supplements Right For You?
The debate about whether supplements for weight loss are healthy or not will go on and on for years to come. There are good and bad points to using weight loss supplements. One of the bad points is that once you stop taking them you gain everything back that you lost to begin with.
Most doctors will tell you that weight loss supplements are not necessary and that only a good controlled diet along with daily exercise is the only thing one needs to lose weight. This is true. however with today’s working society with 2 parents working and trying to raise children at the same time who has time for exercise? Who has time to plan good nutritional meals?
I know first hand what this is all about. My wife is probably around 60 pounds over weight. Now before we go any further I would just like to say that I love her just as much now as I did when we first met. Her weight does not bother me. She is a beautiful person both inside and out. But I know inside she is hurting. And for the last several years she has struggled with her weight almost daily. And the biggest problem as I mentioned above is time. Time to prepare good quality nutritious meals both for her self and the children. Time to do sufficient exercise in order to burn off calories.Our schedule is chaotic to say the least. She works from 9:00 AM till 5:00 PM. I work from 3:30 PM till 12:00 AM . When I’m not with the kids she is with the kids. Only on weekends do the kids have both parents home at the same time.
Flax Hull Lignans are very beneficial for many health conditions. Studies have shown that SDG or lignan (secoisolariciresinol diglycoside, but for simplicity this substance will be referred to as lignans) The effects of flaxseed on blood glucose levels are not clear, although hyperglycemic effects have been reported in one case series. However, this should not deter you from getting healthier with flax seed oil!
Researchers found low incidences of ****** cancer and colon cancer in populations that have high amounts of Lignan in their diet.
There are many benefits to adding flax seeds to your diet. Well for instance they can get rid of your constipation problem.
But that should come as no big surprise, since any highly unsaturated oil will do that, particularly if substituted for saturated fats.
Back to supplements. First they will not work if you do not get the proper diet and at least exercise once per week. My wife has tried supplements and they did work for her. What supplements do is to help speed up your metabolism rate decreasing the need for daily exercise. They also supplement the nutrition needed that you may not be getting from your diet for proper weight loss. Weight loss supplements actually regulate your blood sugar level, this helps you overcome severe sugar and carbohydrate cravings that sabotage even the most strong-willed weight loss efforts. So are weight loss nutrition supplements right for you? When my wife lost 40 pounds using supplements she felt great. She was happy and gained allot of self esteem back. Not to mention that she had allot more energy. If you have a hectic schedule and cannot find enough time in the day to prepare proper nutritional meals and get regular daily exercise then I suggest you give supplements a try.
My opinion is that if they help you to lose weight and make you feel good about yourself again then go for it. What do you have to lose except a few pounds. There are hundreds of products on the internet you can try. A couple of my wife’s favorites can be found at the following web page. http://weight-loss-nutrition-supplements.com
You can also get good information on dieting and weight loss at this site along with a very handy calorie calculator. Heart disease is by far the #1 killer in the U. S., although 1/3 of those deaths could be prevented if people exercised more and followed better diets, the American Heart Association said in an annual report.
Avoid or limit these oils. Omega-3, meanwhile, is typically found in flaxseed oil, walnut oil, and fish. However, flax seed oil is the best oil where Omega-3 and Omega-6 are balanced. Flax Seed muffins pregents Cancer? Find Flax Seed Recipe today! Omega-3 for health!
Essential fatty acids are further metabolized into hormone-like substances in the cell known as prostaglandins. Prostaglandins are involved in the regulation of many important physiological functions. Randomized clinical trials have shown that omega-3 fatty acid supplements can reduce cardiovascular events (death, non-fatal heart attacks, non-fatal strokes). They can also slow the progression of atherosclerosis in coronary patients.
It may also keep platelets from becoming sticky therefore reducing the chance of a heart attack. Other independent researches has also confirmed this finding.
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Dana N asked:
I have 2 kids, my daughter who is 3 years old and my son who’s 9 months old, I feel like I’m not as good a parent with my son, 2nd born, I’m not able to give him all the attention I did with my 1st born. Any tips? Websites? Books? Anything that can help? I feel like a failure with both of them, although I’m doing my best.
I have 2 kids, my daughter who is 3 years old and my son who’s 9 months old, I feel like I’m not as good a parent with my son, 2nd born, I’m not able to give him all the attention I did with my 1st born. Any tips? Websites? Books? Anything that can help? I feel like a failure with both of them, although I’m doing my best.